Why Adoption Tracing in Thailand?

Most inquiries to us are from the adoptive parents, but we often get inquiries from adopted children, most commonly after they have become an adult.

Adopted children will someday feel a need to ask questions about their origins, and the adoptive parents will need to respond in some way. This is discussed on our page The Adopted Person's Needs.

The adoptive parents will be able to respond in the best way if they have the most knowledge which can be obtained. Depending upon the results we obtain, the adoptive parents can prepare their child for dealing with the issues of their biological family and origin, including their biological mother and father, siblings, extended family, geographical ethnic origin, situation at birth, and experiences in their early life.

Generally, if it is ever decided to do adoption tracing, then it is better to trace sooner than later. This is because in many cases it becomes increasingly difficult over time to trace birth parents, as trails go cold over time in many cases, and biological parents have died. In many cases, witnesses to the early history of child and/or biological parents can also be lost to time and dispersal, be they people at or near a particular address (landlords, neighbors, occupants, friends, associates), or hospital/clinic staff where they were born, or others.

Even if a case looks difficult to solve, it might be best to at least try and do your best, so that you don't wonder the rest of your life "What if I had tried ..." It may be best to resolve a case as best we can, to at least put the issue at rest. And who knows, we might get lucky. In life in general, the more you try and persevere, the luckier you may get.

However, be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it. We've had some cases where we found the biological parent and then the adoptee suddenly went silent with the biological parent, which was disappointing and confusing for the biological parent.

Most adoption tracing cases go fairly smoothly, but there are a variety of outcomes, so we try to prepare and guide both you and the biological parents as best we can.

A common issue in adoption tracing is the possible privacy wishes of the biological parents. Regardless of your philosophy about whether the biological parents have any responsibility for their biological child, we nevertheless are very careful to protect the privacy of the biological parents and to take care of their needs, too, as discussed on our page The Biological Parents' Needs.

We ask readers here to please not be self-righteous and try to impose your values upon others. This can deeply affect many peoples' lives, especially those of the adoptees. We have yet to find an adopted person who disagreed with adoption tracing. On the other hand, we have the most discreet methods of initiating contact with the biological parents, which are sensitive and respectful of their wishes.

It should be said that most of the biological parents to date have been very happy to find out about their child, even after initial shock of being contacted. Some of these have requested we keep the existence of the child secret between them and us, but most of these have been open to their families and community to various extents about the existence of their child which they put into the care of the state at the time. The vast majority of biological parents have been greatly relieved of guilt to find out their child has a loving family overseas and a life much better than the biological parent ever imagined. However, some biological parents have stated that they do not wish to be contacted again, and have not contacted us back over time.

We don't know until we go find out. We prepare for the worst but hope for the best. Our experience and the variety of outcomes is proof that people should not stereotype, pidgeonhole, or jump to conclusions. It is important to approach this realm with an open mind.

> Why trace?

Additional, children pages of this current parent page:

Why trace? :
Adopted persons needs
Biological parents needs
Adoptive parents needs

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